I started my Atkins low-carb lifestyle on January 9, 2008. This time I call it a “lifestyle” rather than a diet because the first time I tried it, I lost some weight and then greedily went back to eating the way I used to and gained it all back plus some more. Well, DUH! That’s not how it works. The difference is that this time I understand. I’ve read the book, researched the principles before I embarked on the journey, and I truly get it now.
Anyway, my husband, who had lost about 30 pounds a few years ago on the South Beach Diet, was very supportive of my choice to live low-carb. And we went shopping together right away to stock up on what I needed. He still eats fairly low-carb, but is not hardcore about it. I wasn’t worried about telling him, knowing he’d be alright with it.
My husband wasn’t the first person who knew I was doing this. A co-worker, Regina, approached me around the time I was thinking about it and said she’d planned to start Atkins in the New Year. Would I perhaps join her as a weightloss buddy? I agreed. We do keep each other on track, though she cheats and I don’t.
The next people to find out (as if it were a “dirty little secret”!) were my father-in-law and his sister. My FIL scoffed immediately. “You know, Atkins died from that crap. You’re going to follow HIS advice?” I corrected him, obviously, explaining that the good doctor suffered head trauma from a fall. “Oh sure,” FIL snickered. “Only because he was so weak from malnutrition. Of course he fell and died.” Allrighty then….moving right along. Dad’s sister was a little more encouraging, but not much. “You know, you just have to eat in moderation. Why cut out anything in particular? Won’t you miss all that chocolate?” she smirked as she popped a truffle into her mouth.
FIL and sister were only mildly impressed with my first few pounds of weight loss. But that, of course, didn’t stop me.
Another work friend, however, has been rather demoralizing. She’s someone I consider more than just a work friend, and I was surprised and disappointed by her reaction to my diet. I went to her house after work one week, and she commented on my modest weight loss. “Oh, I’m doing Atkins!” I chirped happily. She turned a funny shade of gray, and shook her head sadly. “You know, I’m glad you’re losing weight, but I wish you were doing it another way. That’s just not good for you.” I started to discuss it a little, but I could see there would be no swaying her. Thankfully, she had a platter of cheeses out and some crudites with spinach dip, so there was food to eat that wouldn’t cause me to cheat. She seemed annoyed that I didn’t eat the crackers or chips and that I brought some pork skins with me.
About two weeks later, in mid-Feb, this friend and I went to lunch. She openly looked me over as I sat down in the restaurant, at this time about 10 pounds lighter than when she’d seen me last, but made no comment about my obvious weight loss. Whereas we always order a glass of wine with our heavily carbed Italian lunch, I ordered a chicken caesar salad–no croutons–and a club soda with lime. She made no comment at all as I ignored the plate of bread, and said not a word about my food or drink or the way I looked.
She has since avoided me, which I find odd. I saw her the other day in the cafeteria, at which point she again openly looked me up and down (now a full 16 pounds lighter) and then merely remarked to me, ”I think I have that same sweater.”
What is it about low-carb and Atkins that turns friends into enemies and warm people into catty bitches?
A very senior level female executive came up to me yesterday and said, “you’ve lost a lot of weight!” I said, “Yes, sixteen pounds.” Her eyes grew round with amazement and then came the question. “How did you do it?” I hesitated. What do I tell her? Atkins? She’ll attack me and give me the whole ‘That’s bad for you’ story. I’m not in the mood! After a moment of contemplation, I said, “I’m eating low-carb.”
Her reaction? “Oh. Low-carb.” It was a conversation killer.
My mother-in-law sent me an email about two weeks ago about what was new and exciting in her life. She lives with her husband in Florida. I wrote back and told her some of our own happenings, and mentioned I’d lost 15 pounds since she saw me at Christmas. Her response was swift. “Tell me! How did you do it? I gained 10 pounds recently and I can’t seem to shed it!” So, I wrote back and told her. I even went so far (with a captive audience) to explain that it’s low-carb not no carb like so many make it out to be. I explained induction, and how I was now eating a lot of vegetables and including some strawberries in my daily menus. I told her I was working out and getting fit, and feeling great and that I would be getting my blood done in a few weeks so I was looking forward to my numbers. Blah, blah, blah.
Well, can you guess what happened next? Nothing. Nada. No response.
The silence is deafening.
What is it about this diet that rouses people’s anger? Why does it cause so many folks to shut down and walk away? WHY WON’T THESE PEOPLE SHARE IN MY JOY??
It’s frustrating, but it only motivates me more. Are they insinuating, perhaps, that I’m crazy and have no idea what I’m doing? That my intelligence went the way of the potato and the pasta? That I threw the baby out with the bathwater?
No, I say! I’m in my right mind and I’m doing fine. I have no hunger cravings. I’m not starving. I’m not eating non-stop meat and cheese, or eschewing anything that remotely looks to be a vegetable. Read the book, people! It’s not a fad. It’s a scientific and nutritionally sound way of eating developed by a CARDIOLOGIST for goodness sake! And the roadmap is right there in black-and-white. I don’t have to think about what to do, Dr. Atkins figured it all out for me!
It’s alright. You can keep your snarky and sarcastic comments, the rolling of your eyes, the mocking smirks to yourselves. I’ll have the last laugh. I’m already starting to wear 12s again when I was wearing 14s and 16s for the better part of past few years. And when I’m in 10s and 8s again (and, oh yes, I will be!) you can praise me all you want for my weightloss and–by golly–my willpower. I’ll just smile and quote what the good Dr. Atkins wrote:
“Willpower is not required on the Atkins diet, only the wisdom to put yourself in a position where you won’t be needing it.”
- Dr. Robert C. Atkins

